I also hate the collapsed sub-threads. I don't like clicking back and forth to check out hidden posts, especially since so many of them consist of little more than "*kisses*" "ditto!" or "Thanks, buttslapper! Great to see you here!" Just open all the damn messages, please.
I've already skimmed through the "customize" options without finding a way to change these settings. If anyone knows how this can be done, please let me know.
Also, I want my wife and son to come home. Right away. I miss my family, and I haven't spoken to anyone except grocery store clerks for more than a week. That's not healthy.